born in the wrong era

aloha peeps!

its me again and am here to air my views on issues that plague not only me but young women out there. all my life i have felt like i was born into the wrong era,continent. i personally think that i should have been born in the Victorian era where you got to wear corsets and if you fainted,smelling salts was shoved up your nose to wake you the heck up! there are so many things that my peers do and have experienced that i am yet to. For instance i have never been drunk or tipsy,i do not know what it feels like and i don't think i want to. my idea of a good time is not puking my brains out or dancing with my top of on a table and waking up the next morning with a hangover that makes you want to saw your head of,no thank you. I think you can party sober and still have a blast! I have been doing it for a couple of years.

another experience i had recently made me really worried. I have been accused time and time again of being too stiff and rigid and i need to relax my rules a little. i recently met a guy who lives out of town through a girlfriend of mine. she begged and begged for me to meet the guy because according to her the guy saw my picture and said he likes me( i wonder how he could come to that conclusion from a picture) and would love to meet me. we met for drinks and my first impression was that the guy was a little arrogant and forward because he let me know right there and then that he loves sex! like who does that? we are meeting for the first time and you let me know your hobby is sex? OK! then we exchanged contacts because my friend asked me to be nice and not pour my drink on his head like i could do. then he bugs me the next day about coming over to his house,so we can get to know each other more.......

now due to the fact that am a very logical human being i asked advice from both male and female friends. some, where of the opinion that since his a matured guy,its understandable and some where of the opinion that i would not 'come back the way i left'. like seriously is it me or what? so i told the guy to kiss my ass and go hug transformer in my mind and told him for real that i would certainly not be coming to his house anytime soon.

what is the world coming to?

Retail therapy will

hi guys!

hope our week is going fabulously well? Mine got of to a very good start and i thoroughly enjoyed myself yesterday and this weekend promises to be even better because i have enough plans lined up(wink!).

To the topic of the day,shopping! i love looooooove shopping. nothing makes a woman happier than something new. it could be a pair of shoes, a blouse,earring or even a new kitchen utensil trust me i get a smile so wide,you will think i have won the lottery. people shop in different degrees. sometimes we buy something new everyday,sometimes every month it depends on your pocket. when i was in school i was labelled Elizabeth scrooge. whenever they brought stuff over for sale i was never called because i would never buy,it was that bad.

now i have been bitten. i Love to shop. i love clothes,bags,shoes,make up and anything that makes us look good( i draw the line at Brazilian hair, don't see the need....yet) it made me feel like am such a late bloomer, late in discovering boys and now the mystery of womanhood.

so in other for me to catch up with my fellow shopaholics i need to start buying like mad and pray to God that my pocket survives.

come to think of it, i have events lined up and i need outfits for all of them.

gotta go guys....

A Frenebit is in!

hi guys!

i just discovered a new word FRENEBITS actually its a shortened version of friends with benefits. Now this is a very sensitive subject in this part of the world. To sound like a properly brought up girl- how can you have sex with a male friend, with no strings attached, its like your a prostitute or something! Now to sound like a sophisticated twenty something in the 21st century- best freaking idea ever!

Anyway you look at it,its a subject that brings out different reactions. I am not a girl to judge, everyone is allowed to share their bodies and lives the way they want. Like seriously if you have a male friend that is willing to come running and shag you whenever you want( and you both can handle it) more power to you. But if you are a girl that attaches emotions to every sexual encounter you have-stay far far away.

Lets face it, i am a female. WE ARE MORE EMOTIONAL THAN MEN! Lets deal with it. first of,if his your friend there are already emotions involved and you obviously like him. Who has heard of being friends with someone you hate( that's an emotion to) but that's beside the point; friendship and sex is just a recipe for disaster. Now, most guys are not as emotionally advanced as women and see sex as a purely physical function,like going to the bathroom. THEY do not mix sex with emotion.

Am not saying that there are no amazons out there that will outplay any guy and not break a sweat,am sure there are but they are very few. So if you are in or thinking on going into a frenebit situation, please do so with your heart firmly locked in a vault because trust me in Nigeria the chance of you having a happy ending like the film ' Friends with benefits' is very veeeeeeery slim. So if you can handle it,girlfriend knock yourself out and have a drink on me.

However a lasting relationship that will lead to marriage always has its foundation based on friendship and not sex.

baby's and money make the world go round

hi guys,

am really the worst blogger on earth but when you have a thousand things to do and 24 hours are not enough....am sure you get the picture. however ill have to improve if not, whats the use of being a blogger, i need a good kick in the pants.

well i have two things to rant about today, gold diggers and whizkid's baby daddy drama. now am sick and tired of people out there saying that women are the only gold diggers out there, are u kidding me? now the profession of gold diggerism is very gender friendly,no glass ceiling there,i assure you. in fact i have met guys that are so shameless, that the first question they ask is what you do for a living. now if your profession doesn't sound like a veritable cash spinner,you are kicked to the curb faster that you can say mushin!now i have never had anything against my female sisters that are gold diggers, at least they are loud and proud about it. from their Brazilian weaves to their jimmy choos, u sef must have confidence in your bank balance before you approach them.however our male colleagues hide under the facade that they do not want liabilities,excuse me? seriously i have been dumped because my family was not Folawiyo or Adenuga and i happened to live on the mainland.

now to whizkid, i admire your wanting to start a family early and it shows that his a very virile young man but couldn't you have waited a bit more? like i know your role model is tuface but am sure the road must have been rough for him to. anyway i only have love for Whizkid and i love your songs( i dance to them all the time) and i hope your music career is on the up and up but please get married before you donate another kid and if you no fit hold body,use protection!

Is failure an excuse to give up?

i do not know how many of us have felt the bitter taste of failure. that punch in your gut feeling after you made an effort. the worst kind of failure is the one you experience when you believe your utmost best has been put into it. when you fail at something that you know you didn't put much effort in,you don't feel that bad but when you know you put your back into it and still get bitch slapped by it,you just might never recover.

is it an excuse for you to wax spiritual and say maybe its a sign from God that its not for you. or should you grit your teeth and say i am not about to give up! this is what they call a real test of character. nothing good comes easy they say and you just need to get back into the saddle even though the horse just gave you a concussion.

to all my fellow failures today but successes tomorrow, you are not alone. its time to get back into the saddle but this time with our helmets on.

London city is Falling down

O ga o. I am appalled by the anarchy that is currently taking place in London. See the livelihood of innocent citizens going up in flames. Lives are being lost and people are being maimed and its like its becoming a free for all. Even though i think i can try to be objective and see the reason for this stupidity( and classic case of being over pampered) i cannot for the life of me understand why this foolish children are doing this. Some people say it started because a young man of 29 was shot dead by the police,some say its a rebellion against the austerity measures being carried out by British government, i say its utter bullocks and any man or woman whether they are of age or not should face the full wrath of the law. Have they not heard of peaceful protests,haba!

Then again another thought occurs to me about my beloved country Nigeria. How many young men are gunned down by the incompetent men of the Nigerian police on a daily basis. We have always been experiencing even harsher economic conditions than the British( in fact every Nigerian in his 30s and 20s was born into austerity and its still going strong). Food prices in the market are sky rocketing and our dear president is more obsessed about single term rule. Can we say Nigerians are peace loving or we are just plain cowards? Do we need to become a little bit more aggressive in our demands,then maybe we will be taken seriously?

I really cannot speak for all Nigerians but i speak as a young woman struggling hard to make ends meet. Who looks at the future and it seems bleak even though i keep a smile on my face and my religion preaches keep faith. I really shudder and hope that beneath the ever resilient spirits of Nigerians is not a mounting resentment towards our government. May Nigeria not burn.

The Winds Of Change

change! it is said that the most constant thing in life is change,but that doesn't mean i have to like it. i am supposed to love change and embrace it with a grin on my face?no sirree! i detest change especially for the worse,when i have no control over it and all i can do is hold tight while am hurled towards an unknown destination. i do not want change because i am perfectly happy with where i am now and even i am going to move an inch,it should be my decision not by fate. why should i accept change?is it healthy? does it increase the price of tomato in the market?

it was change, when i got dumped! am i supposed to accept it?anyway i have now and i guess i don't a have choice.