Sorry Sister....

I am upset this morning. I am very upset. I am upset at the unfairness of life and the fact that i have a green passport and that allows other countries subject i and my country men to indignity because our so called leaders can't do their jobs! Nothing works! NOTHING! The basic amenities that a country's goverment owes its citizenry are no where to be found. We have not had electricity in my area for over a week and i had to wear a rumpled shirt to the office today! ME! ( taking deep breaths).

Am sure some people will roll their eyes and think am being dramatic but do you blame me?  I woke up on Sunday morning to the news that the UK Home Office announced a pilot scheme under which visitors from six ' high risk' Afro -Asian countries including India, Pakistan and Nigeria will be required to furnish a £3000 bond for a 6 month visit visa, which they will forfeit if they overstay in Britain. Really? I guess my plans to travel to the UK to visit my sister's family has been put on indefinite hold. I simply cannot afford this small fortune. How many Britons can boast of £3000 in their accounts.  This new development will apply to holders of 6 months or applicants for 6 months visa which are considered the most vulberable to breaking imigration laws. 




According to the Home Secretary Theresa May the objective of this bond 'is the next step in making sure our immigration system is more selective,bringing down net migration from hundreds of thousands to tens thousands while still welcoming the best and the brightest to Britain'. In essence they are saying ' please stay in your country and stop doing arronjurin kiri'( That's a Yoruba way of saying poke nose). As irritated as i am by this, i agree that it is a known fact that Nigerians in some countries indulge in some unscrupulous activities and illegalities that cast a bad light on our image but should everyone be punished.

Anyway, i hope this is a rude wake up call to Nigeria and its leaders that our country has no respect and integrity in the eyes of the international community. This is is the time to realise that we need to harness our efforts and resources and begin to build our country. The UK or any other country for that matter is not better blessed than we are. WHATEVER it is we are looking for out there can be achieved here. We can do this!

If not, we have just started being humiliated by European Countries. After all, the UK is our colonial master and if they can do this to us, then they can follow suit especially in this harsh economic times to generate revenue.

As for me, i and my green passport will just chill....

Till later folks

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Update on recent events..

Hello Guys,

How has it been? Hope you all have been coping with Lagos wahala and keeping your head above water and surviving in this harsh economic times. I do not want to say this popular Nigerian phrase that annoys my soul but i have to ' It is well'( Rolling eyes). 

I really do not have much to say  because my life is in a phase of tranquility but i can quickly summarise recent events in bullet points:

• Finally changed my phone to a Z10, need i say that i still cannot get the hang of the phone and at this rate i will need tutorials. The phone is a beauty and a wonderful birthday gift but i am mortally afraid of answering  calls in public transport for the fear of being jacked! 
• I attended an event last week saturday organised by the Advertising Agencies Association of Nigeria( hope am right) AAAN  themed' Bursting loose' at Elegushi beach. Yours truly was there in my short shorts ready to party after we were told we would be sanctioned if we didn't show up. Nothing changes your mind quicker than a threat of salary reduction.
• In the romance department...wink! 
• Got into a minor disagreement with a colleague at work( Yawn and Hiss!) Somethings are totally unnecessary.

 So that about it folks! Will update with you pictures when i can get  the hang of this phone jare....

Live Love and Laugh

Monday Musings

Hi Guys,

Have been a bit inconsistent with my blogging,something i planned to improve on this year but life has a way of just happening and sweeping you up in events.

Last month was quite something besides the fact that it was my birthday month. It was filled with emotions both high and low and it was also a month of self discovery. I could literally be sooo low in the dumps and in the next moment be as happy as i could be.

Anyway am in the happy zone now due to the fact i just dabbled in some retail therapy. I swear nothing compares to  ripping of tags from new cloths. I know its momentary but its a  pure female feeling that cannot be described and the joy of actually finding something i love that actually comes in my size....Nirvana!

Which brings to me to something that has been bugging me for a bit. I am sure i have gone on a bit about being a size 6 living in Nigeria. A society obsessed with boobs and ass. I Consider myself very confident....now! For years i had to battle body image issues because i felt i was the skinniest person alive and dressed accordingly. I Could never be caught in skirts and i hated i mean LOATHED my legs and hid them from view wearing only jeans throughout my university days.

However with age comes sense( not for everybody though) and i became more comfortable in my own skin. I have begun to dress with my body in mind and started to accept that even though i do not have curves that will stop traffic, i can still look sexy in  a petite and chic kind of way. Pencil skirts and gowns are my go to outfits for work and i have been told they flatter me.

Then! It started again! People asking if i eat and how guys would chase me if i just had a bit more in the booty department. Its soooo annoying and our music videos do not help either. Does my cup size and the roundness and voluptuousness of my hips and derriere make me more womanly?  

Its soo ironic that in other countries, women are pressured to be size zero's while here i am being pressured to look like Beyonce!
 

At the end of the day, its just annoying that women are still objectified and are expected to look a certain way.

If one more person asks me if i eat or not....... Anyway happy thoughts Tobi.

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