Friday, June 29, 2012

The Rat Race

Hi Guys!

Hope we are all gearing up for the weekend? As for me, its going to be a pretty tame weekend with me all lonesome at home. Ill catch up on house chores and relaxation and if 'paroles' come up,ill be sure to fall in.

Anyway my topic of consideration today is the rat race.Am sure we have all heard about the infamous rat race of life( not rat's in track & field events) but the never ending race we all unconscionably fall into the first day we hoist our school bags on our backs the first day in school. It starts from getting good grades in school,to entering the university at the right time ( nowadays its as young as fifteen) and finding the 'THE' job that puts you ahead of your peers for life. Its exhausting and it seems the TO DO list never ends.

For the Young ladies out there it seems the pressure just gets worse. What kind of cloths do you wear, where do you shop,where do you vacay. Do you have a boyfriend and if you do what does he do for a living? Does he have a car? if he does, what kind of car does he drive? Does he have his own apartment or does he still live with his parents? if he doesn't, where is his apartment located? is it fully furnished? It goes on and on to the most stupid of all ' what kind of fake hair do you have attached to your head?' The most painful of all is that it goes both ways. Men and Women are caught up in it and its no respecter of age.

So for my weekend ' NOT TO DO LIST' i will try my possible best not to fall under that spell of Materialism and say 'Screw y'all'( pardon the language) and just basically have fun with or without all the little gadgets that we all seem to depend  on for existence.

Till Later!


Friday, June 22, 2012

Religiousness VS Godliness

Hi guys!

Am proud of the fact that its not been up to a week am back, Yipee! The fact that it's a rainy rainy Friday will also not dampen my mood besides the fact that my tailor has  upset me because the dress i am to wear for a friend's wedding tomorrow has not been finished( rolling my eyes).

Well before i go on rambling about my personal drama, there is something that has come to my notice about our dear country,Nigeria. We are a very religious people but how Godly are we? I am a Muslim by birth and i am trying to practice the religion to the best of my ability,even though i know its not as diligent as it should be. At the back of my mind,i have always been of the opinion that our religiousness really is one of our greatest problems. There is a lady in my office that is a practising Muslim. she covers her hair and goes to the mosque every Friday for Jumat prayers. Compared to her i can say i fall into the category of  an unserious Muslim. I don't cover my hair, i wear revealing cloths, i party sometimes and am very vain and i do not go to the mosque for Jumat as frequently as i should.This lady in question has invited me countless times for Jumat prayers but i always find excuses not to go,sometimes they are genuine reasons but for the most part its just plain laziness. i noticed that her attitude towards me has become more distant and cold. we have never had any disagreements and our contact in the office is minimal at best, because we work in different departments. I can only come to the conclusion that my not going for Jumat is the reason for her behavior towards me. This is where i get a bit confused. To the best of my knowledge, i am not the worst person on earth. I am friendly and down to earth and i try to be kind to my neighbor. so i wonder what gives her the reason to be judgmental.

Nigerians should begin to place less emphasis on what religion we practice but on the character of each person. Am not saying throw religion out the window but i must agree that it has been the cause of major wars in human civilization. Take for example this Boko Haram wahala. I am not that versed in the Quaran but i am Genuinely horrified that this terrorists are killing innocent people ( both Muslim, christian and a few traditionalists) in the name of Islam. I think when we start placing more emphasis on LOVING your fellow human being then a lot of the crimes committed will be greatly reduced.

Anyway till next time folks! Have a wonderful weekend.


Monday, June 18, 2012

Having a Support System

hey Guys!

Its been two months too long that i have updated anything on my blog. I feel so guilty and upset that i allowed events overwhelm me that i totally neglected my duties.

Anyway the life of a single girl always has drama and i have had my share. A short lived relationship was the crux of it all. God i was or i still am totally smitten but sometimes you have to know when to let go. I have come to the conclusion that on no circumstance should you be the one chasing a guy,never! I did and right now am paying the price for it big time. If a guy wants you,he will do the chasing. Secondly you cant make a man love you, he does or he doesn't. Its as simple as that. i was under the impression for the past three months that if i altered my myself,if i was more patient,talked less and generally became a different version of me that i would be more appealing to the guy in question. What a joke! Need i say that it didn't work and now am paying the price. I allowed my libido and heart do the reasoning and now am up shit creek( pardon my french). Its been a very trying couple of days,  am always being on the verge of tears but thank God for my rocking support system,my friends. They have been there keeping my chin up and making me laugh through my tears and plied me with anecdotes about their own horrible experiences. In this game of love and war,everyone has their own battle scars and stories. We just hope that its all worth it in the end.

So to all young women out there who are looking for their soul mate. Never change yourself for any man. A man who loves you,will love no matter your inadequacies but will help you become a better version of yourself,will compliment you and will balance out the qualities that you lack.

So till next time.