Monday Blues 2

hi guys!

hope you guys have had a wonderful weekend. mine was great,i had a blast. I attended MTN project fame finale and i hung out with my friends on Sunday selling shoes( which girl would not like that, when i got to shop as well).

anyway my euphoria quickly evaporated when i got to the office. its not actually the people i have to work with( even though not everyone is on my favourite list). its just there are some changes that are taking place right now but even though my head knows its inevitable my heart right now is so heavy, it feels like i swallowed a bag of cement. the professional in me is quite disgusted with my mood but the woman in me is not happy at all.

what is it about we humans that detests change even though we know its for our own good. I know God has great plans for me but fear can make the most optimistic person feel dreary.

anyway for the people that i wont be seeing as much as i used to, ill miss you from the bottom of my heart. but as the Yoruba people say it ' 10 friends cannot play for 10 years'  we all have to be separated one day and even though i approach this kicking and screaming, i know ill be fine.

for all of us that are dreading the changes that are coming towards like a train with no breaks, it is well. You are never thrown into a situation that you cannot handle and 'this too shall pass'

Christmas is here and there is no money la la la

hi guys.

the Xmas season is here and Santa is on his way to Nigeria and am not feeling the Christmas cheer. am sure when Santa gets here, he will be very disappointed. i do not feel the Christmas thing at all. in fact i have come to the conclusion that its keresimesi that we do here not Christmas, people are not smiling. the price of food has gone through the roof and home girl is broke.  the shopping frenzy that happens during the season is none existent maybe because at the back of our minds, we cant forget that next year has the potential of being tougher( removal of fuel subsidy) or that by this time next year, there could be a world wide earthquake/tsunami( rumor has it that the year is coming to an end). anyway am sure there must be something to be cheerful about and say ho ho ho to. so let me list my reasons to be happy in my head and hum a tune. it doesn't seem to be working though. i cant for the life of me find what to be cheery about when am broke and everyone around me is singing the same tune.

at least am grateful to be alive and all my limbs are intact.so even if ill have to repeat outfits and perish the thought of buying Mongolian hair and eat fish instead of chicken, there are millions of people that do not even have shawa,cloths and hair on their head to start with. Premium hair weave will just have to do.

ill be back! merry Christmas in advance folks!

the sting of rejection

hi guys!

its the weekend again and i must say that i expect it with great relief. this week has been draining and i cannot wait to rest and take care of my health because i have been a bit under the weather.

anyway my pet peeve today is rejection. who hasn't felt the sting of being rejected? it could be at work,at home or in a romantic sense. if there is a PhD for being rejected, i think i would have it. am not complaining because i believe rejection sometimes is good for the ego and makes you humble. i was rejected recently by someone and i must say that at very moment it hurt like the very devil. first of i was not really into him and all but because i had decided to be a bit more open minded in my dealings with men,i decided to stay friends( which is very unlike me.when i cut lose i cut lose). anyway i got rejected by the son of a gun when i tried to take the friendship to another level.

i have wondered many times what my reaction should be. should i coil up in a ball and cry or should i ' man up and say on to the next one. my ego and pride has been badly bruised but what can a girl do. i have decided to be strong about the situation and smile. i know that i am a 'catch' for any guy and frankly its his loss. so whenever you get rejected by a person or a company or anything just smile and know that sooner than you think your letter of acceptance is on the way.

down with the flu

hi guys,

its been another roller coaster couple of days and the weekend hurtled past,so that does not count. anyway i have heard the word exam fever and am curious about what it means.

is it when you cant sleep and you mind is constantly on the chapters in your textbook that you have not covered. is it when you heart constantly skips a beat when you realise the exam day is closer? In that case i guess am down with the exam flu.

i have professional exams coming up and i must admit that am worried sick not only because it will finally buttress the thoughts of me being not as smart as everybody thinks i am,if i fail or the thousands of naira i have poured into the course that i could have bought a small car to take me about with. its like i feel my communications career is tied to the whole thing and it will determine if i will move forward or backward. i know that career advancement is not only about my paper qualification but about what you know, but i feel it will help me in the right direction.

anyway am keeping both my fingers and toes crossed and i guess i have to do my path....which is study.

finding yourself

ho la peeps!

hows the day going y'all? My day started kind of slow,woke up a bit late so i had to hustle from the house,so i was not late for work. Today i can say will be just ordinary,so lets see how it goes.

the topic on my mind is finding yourself. this term is very subjective, it could be about finding what makes you happy or what you love to do or finding out what you hate. it all depends on what your searching for in your inner self. My search has always been to find what makes me happy and what i would love to do career wise with my life. a lot of people that know me have always perceived me to be the highly intelligent,driven career girl that wants to reach the pinnacle of success. what they fail to realise that there is a constant battle with the other side of me that wants the husband and kids and the happily ever after.am not saying i could get married tomorrow(i don't think am ready emotionally and mentally) but i DEFINITELY want that. the fear i have is can i have both worlds; can i be a career woman and at the same time be a loving mother and wife. this issue is very important and close to my heart because when i read in the papers of married women that have kids and have careers,it brings a smile to my face. alas! they are just  a few.

combined with this raging argument in my mind and heart is the fact that i have not found what it is i want to do with my life......yet. i think i have a very good idea but at the same time am not sure. i grew up wanting to be in the spotlight.which one? that's the million dollar question. there are soooo many things i want to achieve. i want to travel to exotic places and meet different personalities. i want to write and speak for the women of my generation, i love to look good and talk to interesting people and get to know them. at the same time i love to read and have i also want to have a regular life. it seems am a scattered person but all these thoughts run riot through my brain and am afraid that i might go through life without finding out WHAT IT IS exactly am SUPPOSED to be doing because i love to do so many things.

I know am not the only individual out there who is young or old that is going through this dilemma. the only advice i can give is keep thinking and dreaming and one day we might need to take that step of the cliff...there is a risk that we might crash and burn but there is also the possibility that we might soar and never look back. its a terrifying thought but i guess that whats being an adult is all about.

who cares what you think?

hi guys!
its mid week already and that means the week is slowly but surely coming to an end, and then the weekend is here! ( even though its just for two days). well i have a new pet peeve and its called ' caring about what people think'.

lets face it! we all care about other people's opinion,its just that some people care more than others. I used to hide under the facade of not caring about what people think, i lied. i think i care about it too much, in fact behind my 'go screw yourself' face, am mentally and emotionally affected about people's perception about me. I just generally want to be liked and respected not by everybody ( that's simply silly) but by the majority at least.

the painful thing is that even if you are the nicest being on earth and constantly try to please, shit(pardon the language) still gets said about you. this happens everywhere,work, the church and the family who should actually be your genetic fan club.the most shocking thing is that the bearers of the highly unflattering remarks about your person could be your bosom buddy or family member. i have been known to lose my appetite when  i hear what people say about me or actually burst into tears( i have the misfortune of having a leaking tear duct that gets stimulated frequently,simply put i cry A LOT) and sometimes am actually more bothered and crying because of the fact that am bothered,because most of the time its tears of anger at myself.

lately,events have simply shown me that i REALLY should not care about what people think because even IF they care about what i think,they still go ahead and do what they wanna do( a girlfriend of mine actually did it recently and even though she doesn't know that i know, we are cheerfully fooling each other).

so my new mantra in life( or rather one of them) is to TRY to care less about what people think as long as my actions don't hurt anyone and go ahead and live my life, be nice to people who deserve it and at the same time try to plug my leaking tear ducts and keep my emotions to myself. its going to be hard but i know i can and i advice anyone that has the problems i have should try to do the same.

the green eyed monster in me

hi guys!

hope the weekend went well? mine was mediocre with nothing too good or too bad. I made my hair on Friday night and got home pretty late after falling on my bum because the new hairstyle was obscuring my vision and i was bone tired. i left for school the next morning  to write my mock exam and got properly flogged because my brain went black and for the life of me i could not remember a thing( i rewarded myself with pounded yam and vegetable) for my abysmal efforts. then i had to play nurse maid to my mum who sadly was under the weather.soooo my weekend went well( i have to be positive).

The topic for today is envy. i know morally and religiously that being envious and wanting  your neighbors assets is a cardinal sin but who can tell me honestly that they have never felt a tinge of envy for someone.  I have and it happened to me recently. A friend of mine informed me about her getting a new job in an establishment that i would love to work in. At first i was elated, then the monster crept in. I now looked back at the years i had known this friend of mine and how EVERYTHING she wants she gets and how her life had been rolling along according to some divine blue print or plan. I had to mentally and physically stop my thoughts by pinching myself and asking God for forgiveness but in that moment of weakness i did not CARE. So here comes my question. How much envy is healthy? When does envy turn to outright jealousy and then plain bitterness? Can you channel envy into something positive? Can envy make you work harder or push you to do evil? These questions i do not have the answers to but i can tell you that feeling envious is not something you should be ashamed of, its how you control  it and your actions after that is is important. AS for my friend. Do i envy her? Yes! However am i happy for her? Most definitely! Do i wish i had her job? heck yeah! Would i pray she losses it. No. but will i will be inspired to put my back into it.Without a doubt.

Dressing the Part

Hi guys!

its been a very loooooooong needed weekend. I had an absolute blast! It was the Sallah  celebration for the Muslims world wide and give it to the Muslims(at least my family and the ones i know) we know how to throw a a party. My weekend was filled with non stop activities(shopping,cooking,family and i got to be a runway model even though its not as glamorous as it sounds). It seems like as usual the four day weekend raced past and here i am chained to my desk again.

Now to the business of the day, dressing for work. I must admit that i am a staunch supporter of professional dressing in the office. I believe that if you are coming to work in a corporate environment you should dress the part. I work in an advertising agency and i must admit that i get to see the good,bad and downright bizarre dressing from my colleagues especially those in the creative department,from corn rows to dread locks,singlets won on cargo pants,you name it we got it(at least nobody is crazy enough to come to work in their under wear yet and am sure as lenient as the management is,that person would probably be sanctioned)

Another aspect am interested in is,does the dressing extend to the hairstyle especially for the females. A recent saga in my office involved a female colleague having to go home and remove the weave she had on because it was too loud and unprofessional. i must admit that i was  bit taken aback when i saw the said hair but at the same time i thought 'we work in an ad agency famous for their casual dressing,is this not the perfect place to express your creativity. Now,I am also at the other end of the hammer with the gown i wore to work today being commented on. I was told i looked good by some,sexy by some and one female colleague out of i don't know what went through her head,said this is the first gown i have ever won that fit me to a T(that is a back handed compliment if i ever saw one because i recall being complemented about many other gowns i have won before,women sha!)Anyway a senior colleague called me aside to tell me politely and cheekily that the gown should not be won again( wonder why?) is it the hemline or the shocking fuchsia pink colour or the fact that the gown brings out my curves in the right places that i never knew i had..

anyway for the sake of the sanity of the male folks ill wear a blazer on the gown next time.

the trouble with women

hello peeps!

its been crazy this past few weeks and i have been under a lot of stress.anyway my new pet peeve  are girlfriends! and no i don't swing both ways but having female friends can be a drag. apart from the threat of being hit on by guys i think its relatively easier to be friends with guys,at least for me.

i have always been the victim of vicious fights with girls that i thought  could be called friends. i have been the topic of gossip and backbiting and frankly i have wanted to enter a cat fight with a couple of them. why is IT so difficult to get along with girls? after all i am a girl and i should understand them,but frankly i don't. i cant stand the envy or jealousy,the misunderstanding of words,the emotional outbursts and the hormone ranges.

in the past two months i have entered into arguments with two female colleagues, a serious fight with a neighbour and another argument with a close friend and they are all female. am not saying that i do not ever want to have female friends,i have some that are more like sisters. in fact i have a friend that i have known for over 15 years and we are still going strong( we have our arguments though). i cant discuss man problems with a man or make fun of a man with a guy friend, or go shopping or just be plain silly.but seriously sisters,we need to just chill and relax and sheath our claws and trust me we will live a whole lot longer.

The Virtue of Patience

Hi guys,

Hope we all had a restful weekend? I did because i did absolutely nothing and it felt great! i slept,read a book,slept,read a book,watched a movie and slept again.It felt like the weekend should never end. I know a couple of people who complained of being bored because they could not go out because of the Local Government elections and rain thereafter(it was like God and the government was in cahoots).As for me it was a welcome event because last week was not a particularly good one,but i thank God.

Anyway to the business of the day,Patience!I am here to say that patience has never been my strong suit. I am not the most patient person and i lose my cool very quickly(probably the reason for my short temper). I especially do not have patience for stupid  and arrogant people who really do not have anything to be arrogant about. my lack of patience has affected every aspect of my life and i must confess sometimes not positively. when i say every aspect i mean EVERY(Family,work,school and romance).

I cannot begin to count how many guys i have given a tongue lashing because of their stupidity and total lack of gentlemanly behavior. I have a friend who has told me not to be quick to delete a guys number or PIN from my phone even though the guy has been totally disrespectful that i do not know when i will need him again. Excuse me? First of, i do not need anybody except God and secondly, i cannot abide being disrespected.

I know patience is a virtue and my mum still scolded me for my lack of patience this morning because i was finding it difficult to wear my necklace and i was about to throw it back in the box and leave the house without wearing one.She says am a woman and if intend on being a good wife and mother,i need to cultivate the habit and virtue of patience.

Anyway i agree...to an extent that yeah i need to be more patient with men but does that mean i have to become a doormat in the process?

Emotional Intelligience

OK i lied! or i was suffering from delusions or the stars were not in my favour. Monday was bad but Tuesday believe me was faaaaaaarrrr worse. i just could not get anything right. first of i woke up with a stomach ache. i got to work and all i wanted to do was go back home, then i got into a stupid totally unnecessary argument and got soundly drenched in the rain on my way back home because there were no buses. have you ever felt like the entire world is against  you and the universe is having fun at your expense. believe me, Tuesday was that day. 


anyway going back to the topic of the day. emotional intelligence. i have heard that word being thrown around a lot, especially in the work place and i was obliged to google its meaning and here it is 'Emotional intelligence (EI) is a skill or ability in the case of the trait EI model, a self-perceived ability to identify, assess, and control the emotions of oneself, of others, and of groups. in that case i have failed woefully in fact i am an emotional retard. i cannot control my emotions,i try but i fail all the time. if  AM angry you know it and the same goes for every other emotion that the human being feels. i am a case of if i feel it, then you see it. 


due to my lack of emotional intelligence i have been attacked by my fellow humans. have you noticed that when you get angry or upset easily, people tend to deliberately upset you?happens to me all the time. for example the completely anal argument i got into yesterday could have been totally avoided if i could have controlled my emotions more(am not putting all the blame at my feet,the other parties were totally out of line) but i could have controlled the situation and walked out the bigger person. i have noticed that if i am talked to condescendingly or made fun of or deliberately ridiculed then i totally lose it. i actually feel very ashamed and stupid because i let my emotions rule me again!


so for all my fellow emotional dullards out there,i say we make a pledge to reign in our emotions so that we can thrive in our human relations in every aspect of our lives and stop giving people the pleasure of seeing us dissolve in tears or explode in anger. i have made that vow and plan on implementing it,even if it kills me. i will smile when i feel like committing murder. i will laugh when all i feel like doing is crawling into a ball and crying and i will NEVER give another sorry excuse for a human being(deep breath)the pleasure of controlling my emotions again,so help me GOD!

Monday blues

Its Monday again!(signs!) and it feels like the never ending rat race has begun again. am i the only one that experiences what i have affectionately termed ' Monday blues' when all you want to do is turn back and go home and the mere thought of sitting at that desk almost reduces you to tears? well i do,and its every week.

honestly it feels like i was put into a time machine that fast forwards the weekend and wham! its Monday again. the weekend just flew by and sometimes its hard to pick one useful thing you accomplished for one's self( except sleep) and that one is not even guaranteed.

another reason i think Monday's are depressing is because of the over serious mien that we all have, i call it the 'monday face' where everyone is serious faced and the ogas come back from their meetings with tales of doom and gloom.

i am of the firm believe that Mondays are horrible and i always dread it not because of the work but because of the negative energy that gets thrown at me from my hustling for public transport and the rushing at nerve break speed to get to the office on time because you don't want to get to the office late on a Monday morning.

anyway i know that by tomorrow ill feel much better because its one day down and four more to go and the never ending cycle continues.

the cruelty of the human race

Human beings are capable of the most heinous evil and horror. i am tired of the old tired cliche the devil made me do it,i think its absolute rubbish and sometimes i feel bad for the devil because he gets blamed for every single bad thing that is done. we should not forget that we have brains and know the difference between right and wrong.

in the papers i saw an example of the brutality that man is capable of. a mentally unbalanced young man(supposedly) chopped of the arm of his baby step brother while the mother was in the kitchen. The sheer horror of the act moved me to tears that i had to go to the bathroom to pull myself together and every time i remember the picture with the poor child screaming in agony my eyes fill up again with tears. why? what did the poor child do to deserve such wickedness. I don't care if the culprit is mentally in stable. he should not have been allowed to stay in the midst of normal people and certainly not children. should i call this ignorance or what? should i blame the government for not providing enough mental institutions to cater for such people?

this is not the act of the devil but man's stupidity,ignorance and cruelty and we should not abide with it. should i mention the poor pensioner that slumped and died while waiting to be verified in other to collect his pension.

then we say Nigeria is not moving forward. how can it when we are one of the most hypocritical wicked ungodly people in the world never mind the fact that we are one of the most religious. slowly and surely because of the hardship we endure everyday the milk of human kindness is drying up in our hearts that if your a woman and your car break down,no man will offer to help and if you are unlucky, you get robbed for your trouble.

born in the wrong era

aloha peeps!

its me again and am here to air my views on issues that plague not only me but young women out there. all my life i have felt like i was born into the wrong era,continent. i personally think that i should have been born in the Victorian era where you got to wear corsets and if you fainted,smelling salts was shoved up your nose to wake you the heck up! there are so many things that my peers do and have experienced that i am yet to. For instance i have never been drunk or tipsy,i do not know what it feels like and i don't think i want to. my idea of a good time is not puking my brains out or dancing with my top of on a table and waking up the next morning with a hangover that makes you want to saw your head of,no thank you. I think you can party sober and still have a blast! I have been doing it for a couple of years.

another experience i had recently made me really worried. I have been accused time and time again of being too stiff and rigid and i need to relax my rules a little. i recently met a guy who lives out of town through a girlfriend of mine. she begged and begged for me to meet the guy because according to her the guy saw my picture and said he likes me( i wonder how he could come to that conclusion from a picture) and would love to meet me. we met for drinks and my first impression was that the guy was a little arrogant and forward because he let me know right there and then that he loves sex! like who does that? we are meeting for the first time and you let me know your hobby is sex? OK! then we exchanged contacts because my friend asked me to be nice and not pour my drink on his head like i could do. then he bugs me the next day about coming over to his house,so we can get to know each other more.......

now due to the fact that am a very logical human being i asked advice from both male and female friends. some, where of the opinion that since his a matured guy,its understandable and some where of the opinion that i would not 'come back the way i left'. like seriously is it me or what? so i told the guy to kiss my ass and go hug transformer in my mind and told him for real that i would certainly not be coming to his house anytime soon.

what is the world coming to?

Retail therapy will

hi guys!

hope our week is going fabulously well? Mine got of to a very good start and i thoroughly enjoyed myself yesterday and this weekend promises to be even better because i have enough plans lined up(wink!).

To the topic of the day,shopping! i love looooooove shopping. nothing makes a woman happier than something new. it could be a pair of shoes, a blouse,earring or even a new kitchen utensil trust me i get a smile so wide,you will think i have won the lottery. people shop in different degrees. sometimes we buy something new everyday,sometimes every month it depends on your pocket. when i was in school i was labelled Elizabeth scrooge. whenever they brought stuff over for sale i was never called because i would never buy,it was that bad.

now i have been bitten. i Love to shop. i love clothes,bags,shoes,make up and anything that makes us look good( i draw the line at Brazilian hair, don't see the need....yet) it made me feel like am such a late bloomer, late in discovering boys and now the mystery of womanhood.

so in other for me to catch up with my fellow shopaholics i need to start buying like mad and pray to God that my pocket survives.

come to think of it, i have events lined up and i need outfits for all of them.

gotta go guys....

A Frenebit is in!

hi guys!

i just discovered a new word FRENEBITS actually its a shortened version of friends with benefits. Now this is a very sensitive subject in this part of the world. To sound like a properly brought up girl- how can you have sex with a male friend, with no strings attached, its like your a prostitute or something! Now to sound like a sophisticated twenty something in the 21st century- best freaking idea ever!

Anyway you look at it,its a subject that brings out different reactions. I am not a girl to judge, everyone is allowed to share their bodies and lives the way they want. Like seriously if you have a male friend that is willing to come running and shag you whenever you want( and you both can handle it) more power to you. But if you are a girl that attaches emotions to every sexual encounter you have-stay far far away.

Lets face it, i am a female. WE ARE MORE EMOTIONAL THAN MEN! Lets deal with it. first of,if his your friend there are already emotions involved and you obviously like him. Who has heard of being friends with someone you hate( that's an emotion to) but that's beside the point; friendship and sex is just a recipe for disaster. Now, most guys are not as emotionally advanced as women and see sex as a purely physical function,like going to the bathroom. THEY do not mix sex with emotion.

Am not saying that there are no amazons out there that will outplay any guy and not break a sweat,am sure there are but they are very few. So if you are in or thinking on going into a frenebit situation, please do so with your heart firmly locked in a vault because trust me in Nigeria the chance of you having a happy ending like the film ' Friends with benefits' is very veeeeeeery slim. So if you can handle it,girlfriend knock yourself out and have a drink on me.

However a lasting relationship that will lead to marriage always has its foundation based on friendship and not sex.

baby's and money make the world go round

hi guys,

am really the worst blogger on earth but when you have a thousand things to do and 24 hours are not enough....am sure you get the picture. however ill have to improve if not, whats the use of being a blogger, i need a good kick in the pants.

well i have two things to rant about today, gold diggers and whizkid's baby daddy drama. now am sick and tired of people out there saying that women are the only gold diggers out there, are u kidding me? now the profession of gold diggerism is very gender friendly,no glass ceiling there,i assure you. in fact i have met guys that are so shameless, that the first question they ask is what you do for a living. now if your profession doesn't sound like a veritable cash spinner,you are kicked to the curb faster that you can say mushin!now i have never had anything against my female sisters that are gold diggers, at least they are loud and proud about it. from their Brazilian weaves to their jimmy choos, u sef must have confidence in your bank balance before you approach them.however our male colleagues hide under the facade that they do not want liabilities,excuse me? seriously i have been dumped because my family was not Folawiyo or Adenuga and i happened to live on the mainland.

now to whizkid, i admire your wanting to start a family early and it shows that his a very virile young man but couldn't you have waited a bit more? like i know your role model is tuface but am sure the road must have been rough for him to. anyway i only have love for Whizkid and i love your songs( i dance to them all the time) and i hope your music career is on the up and up but please get married before you donate another kid and if you no fit hold body,use protection!

Is failure an excuse to give up?

i do not know how many of us have felt the bitter taste of failure. that punch in your gut feeling after you made an effort. the worst kind of failure is the one you experience when you believe your utmost best has been put into it. when you fail at something that you know you didn't put much effort in,you don't feel that bad but when you know you put your back into it and still get bitch slapped by it,you just might never recover.

is it an excuse for you to wax spiritual and say maybe its a sign from God that its not for you. or should you grit your teeth and say i am not about to give up! this is what they call a real test of character. nothing good comes easy they say and you just need to get back into the saddle even though the horse just gave you a concussion.

to all my fellow failures today but successes tomorrow, you are not alone. its time to get back into the saddle but this time with our helmets on.

London city is Falling down

O ga o. I am appalled by the anarchy that is currently taking place in London. See the livelihood of innocent citizens going up in flames. Lives are being lost and people are being maimed and its like its becoming a free for all. Even though i think i can try to be objective and see the reason for this stupidity( and classic case of being over pampered) i cannot for the life of me understand why this foolish children are doing this. Some people say it started because a young man of 29 was shot dead by the police,some say its a rebellion against the austerity measures being carried out by British government, i say its utter bullocks and any man or woman whether they are of age or not should face the full wrath of the law. Have they not heard of peaceful protests,haba!

Then again another thought occurs to me about my beloved country Nigeria. How many young men are gunned down by the incompetent men of the Nigerian police on a daily basis. We have always been experiencing even harsher economic conditions than the British( in fact every Nigerian in his 30s and 20s was born into austerity and its still going strong). Food prices in the market are sky rocketing and our dear president is more obsessed about single term rule. Can we say Nigerians are peace loving or we are just plain cowards? Do we need to become a little bit more aggressive in our demands,then maybe we will be taken seriously?

I really cannot speak for all Nigerians but i speak as a young woman struggling hard to make ends meet. Who looks at the future and it seems bleak even though i keep a smile on my face and my religion preaches keep faith. I really shudder and hope that beneath the ever resilient spirits of Nigerians is not a mounting resentment towards our government. May Nigeria not burn.

The Winds Of Change

change! it is said that the most constant thing in life is change,but that doesn't mean i have to like it. i am supposed to love change and embrace it with a grin on my face?no sirree! i detest change especially for the worse,when i have no control over it and all i can do is hold tight while am hurled towards an unknown destination. i do not want change because i am perfectly happy with where i am now and even i am going to move an inch,it should be my decision not by fate. why should i accept change?is it healthy? does it increase the price of tomato in the market?

it was change, when i got dumped! am i supposed to accept it?anyway i have now and i guess i don't a have choice.

Dealing with the Humans

Dealing with the Humans

I am about this close to really blowing my top and giving everyone a piece of my mind. From my younger brother at home who refuses to grow up,to my perfectionist boss or the annoying fake ass annoying people that i have to deal with everyday at work. Ok girlfriend,slow down and take a deep breath and count to ten.

I am sure many of us, have felt the need to smack the taste out of somebody's mouth but because we are supposed to be grown up and mature or at work professional,we have to bite our tongue. I really do miss those days when it was perfectly alright for me to scream at the top of my lungs and cry when i wanted something. If i do that now, am sure a psych evaluation will be recommended.

Losing your cool isnt something people are proud of because we conside it a sign of weakness. However i think for the sake of sanity, a healthy dose of screaming should be carried out as often as possible(it should be in private of course). It will not only reduce the rate of high blood pressure but the rate of violence against each other.

however for now, if one more person says something stupid about planking! its going to go down!

Happy to be alive!

OK! this is very bad of me. two whole months before updating my blog,tsk tsk! its not my fault though my life has gone AWOL. so many wonderful things have been happening to me and am so grateful to god.

• i travelled to Dubai!( i still cant believe it).
• i started my CAM foundation course.
  
• i met a new guy( don't no if its serious and its kind of complicated)

anyway am on a good path now,all thanks to GOD and i hope it lasts for a long time. the part i love is that am so busy and i don't have time to mope(except for minor mood swings). Dubai was AAAAMAZING! and i cant wait to go there again. my CAM course has been challenging but in a good way and i have made some new friends in class. as for my new bobo(rolling my eyes) its complicated. but am enjoying the buzz of liking a dude and knowing its mutual( i don't know if it will last)and i cannot forget the part of kissing! i have so missed that.

PS: MY BIRTHDAY IS ROUND THE CORNER!!!

ciao

its been a minute!

hi guys

its been eons since i have been here and am really sorry about that. it seems my life just keeps getting busier by the day and 24 hours don't seem to cut it anymore.

Anyway my life has been a real roller coaster of some sorts,but am not complaining. it gives me a sense of accomplishments and fulfilment knowing that i no longer piss hours away on idleness. so what has your girl been up to? a lot! i just started classes on a professional course that is going to take a year to finish and that's if i pass. combined with a full time demanding job in advertising and doing chores and studying by the side,its really a challenge but exciting at the same time,and do you no what? i intend on doing more. i have a lot of goals for this year and i must say the good lord has been more than faithful.

i intend on being more faithful to my blog,travelling to Dubai(yeeeeeeee!) and putting on more weight(i intend on getting to a size 8,am too damn skinny) and maybe finding a man! all these i intend on achieving this year and i know i will.
if you guys have any tips on gaining a few pounds please let me know.

until next time folks! its your girl,biggie!

Happy new year guys!

Happy new year people! ok it might be getting too late for that but since we are still in the first month of the year,what the heck!

my holidays as usual was crazy,in a good and a bad way. i spent quality time with my family eating and drinking like it was going out of style and feeling totally unsexy because i met no guys(ok no great guys) and still haven't. i met one that seemed like a good prospect turned out to be a bust,what else is new? anyway i spent time with family and friends which is to me is what life is about. partied hard and went to the beach!

anyway its back to work we are and praise be to God the year started well for me. which is a good omen for the rest of the year(have to think positive). i hope 2011 is a fab year for us all. its also an election year and frankly am not impressed by any of the candidates buts that Nigeria for you.

so once again happy new year to us all. its going to be tough buts lets try to have fun anyway we can!